Fun Fact. Not everyone is going to like you.
Whatever the reason.
Who cares? You shouldn’t.
What you SHOULD care about. How are they treating you?
I was told before that: I give off a “bad vibe.” I was never the “right girl.” I’m a “bad mom.” And countless other USELESS opinions.
The only surprising part was that no one ever gave the impression that they didn’t like me. Nor did they ever say it directly to ME.
They told me they didn’t like me in a number of indirect ways. Encouraging negative self-talk, negative behavior and actions. The invites stopped, so did the check-ins, and basic conversations.
Instead of recognizing the behaviors and adjusting accordingly, I made a mistake. I ignored it. I internalized it.
WRONG. WRONG. WRONG.
You should never ignore when people are not treating you correctly. We should also never internalize what they’re saying about us or to us about ourselves if it’s not coming with genuine intent.
Of course, there are lessons in every mistake. Here is what I’ve learned.
We shouldn’t allow the INCORRECT, NEGATIVE, DESTRUCTIVE things people say about us just “fly.” Words became things…
Don’t let the opinions of others about you became your opinions or truths about yourself.
Stand firm that you matter. Recognize when they aren’t speaking life into you. Call them out.
Remove those people immediately and do not allow them further access to your life. The longer they remain in your life, the more toxicity they bring to it.
Being friends in spite of does not apply to every situation. Not everyone deserves 2, 3, or 4 chances, especially when they KEEP showing you that they don’t deserve them.
Be clear with your intent.
Say this with me:
YOU DO NOT HAVE TO LIKE ME. YOU CAN CONTINUE NOT TO LIKE ME. THAT’S YOUR ENERGY BEING WASTED NOT MINE. WE DON’T HAVE TO BE FRIENDS AND I’M OK WITH THAT.
Do not give people the authority to speak over your life in a negative manner. Know that you deserve better, that you can change the narrative that’s been created, and most importantly, remember you can CUT THEM OFF.
Don’t live your life for likes. Live if for LIFE.
By: Danielle Moses